For the longest time you wondered why people’s voices would drop when you entered a room. The look on their faces and the sad look in their eyes letting on that they know a terrible truth that would turn your blood to ice water. Sex would be great but, how the hell do you do it with your wife while insisting that you wear protection? That you’re sure shes cheating and you sure don’t want to catch some guys diseases? When you leave the house in the morning, you wonder if there isn’t someone parked down the street waiting for the all clear signal?
The uncertainty will end when you empower yourself through knowing the truth. Following are some key pointers that indicate what is happening. They include:
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: She has secrets. They have to be kept while she keeps playing the game. Her computer is a deaf mute but it remembers everything. If you suspect your wife, you will want to find out how to get hers to reveal its secrets. Its not hard. For her to hide her affair and especially the identity of her lover is of critical importance to her. Watch her to see if she gives herself away. Does she move her machine to a more private area? Are her passwords changed? Does she get mad when you come upon her unexpectedly when she is online? Why would she be upset if there was nothing?
If she is dabbling in an affair online, she will be engrossed in what is on the screen and it is likely she will get upset when you come upon her unexpectedly. If she closes her browser quickly as you show up, take this into account in your deliberations. That is another sign that you can focus on. Why wont she be open about what she is doing?
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: She is no longer the same housewife: A good sign that her heart and mind are no longer focused on you is a change in her personal habits. Chat lines become very busy after dark and before dawn. If she comes to bed late or is up very early, it would surely be interesting to find out who she is talking to on a chat line and what the subject of the conversation is. Her talks with her new love interest will tire her out. This will affect her relationship with you and the rest of the family. There will be little time or interest in intimacy or communication with you.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Where did the neat, clean housewife go? A love affair online takes a lot of time. You might find that the grass is a week overdue for a cutting. Dishes tend to pile up in the sink where before they were washed twice a day. The laundry piles up and remains undone as she spends more and more time on the computer. Youre mentioning the changes in the cleanliness of the house earns you a look of disgust and nothing more. This decline in the cleanliness of the household could be caused by a change in what she views as important. The time she spends away from her duties will cost you and your relationship with her.
There is a long list of indications of online affairs but this short sampling should clue you in.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: Evidence despite the miles. If your wife works far away, it is real easy for doubts and fears to grow in your mind. Even the mildest desire on her part can grow into a burning desire because there is almost no chance of her getting caught. This is especially true if there are a lot of miles and/or an international boundary between the two of you. Loneliness and normal physical desire could conspire to ignite in her an intense desire for physical and emotional closeness which you cant do from so far away.
You hope and pray that you are wrong but something, instinct perhaps, tells you that she is involved with someone else. Faith and trust can only take you so far. Its only a matter of time before your lingering doubts become rabid fears.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: An eye for an eye; why not? Most men that strongly suspect that their wives are sleeping with someone else frequently think of getting even, of finding a woman for them to have a revenge affair with. They want payback. They want her to know how it feels to hurt.
Leave yourself no margin for error. You don’t want to get this wrong!
Will having sex with someone else take the pain away from you? Will you feel vindicated and that revenge was called for and good and right? Or, will it be one of those things that dogs you for years afterward, one of those things that fills you with burning regret and remorse every time you will think about it? It is not for me to judge a revenge affair. Only you can do that. I am just advising you to think it through carefully as you face infidelity in your marriage.
If you are serious about going through with a retaliatory love affair, think it through again. How do you think you will feel at the exact moment that you are getting revenge against your wife with another woman. How do you think your heart will feel after? Do you want this on your conscience. If its not bothering you, you know what to do.
Infidelity Warning Signs Part 2: You have to FIND OUT FOR SURE!
If you are open to new ideas and technologies, you have a good chance of finding out the information you desperately need without your being detected and without there being any chance of her catching on to you. Stay open minded, be willing and diligent. You will either find out for sure that she is cheating or rest in peace to find that you misread her actions. Either way you win.
The answer is closer than you think.